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The Simple Woman’s Daybook – January 19, 2009

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FOR TODAY : January 17, 2008
The sky is blue, the weather is crisp and windy.     This past weekend I made a couple of decisions that I hope will increase my sanity level. 

Outside my Window –   The wind is really going.  Overhead the sky is bright and clear.  Between the wind and the cold weather it is absolutely frigid.  The birds and squirls are hiding. 

I am thinking –   One change I am committed to is cutting back on my web development work.  Every few months I pull my head up long enough to think “I am doing too much”.  While I genuinely enjoy web development I am also extremely busy doing other things, not the least of which is homeschooling and homemaking.  I originally left the corporate world and took up freelancing to be better at the important tasks of mothering and keeping my home.  Now, three children later my business has grown, my children are homeschooling and I find that I just can’t manage it gracefully or sanely.  Something has to give.  As much as I hate given up the recognition and money I can’t really justify it at the moment. 

From the learning rooms – I am setting up field trip for the spring.  Much fun to be had.

I am thankful for-  Children who play together very nicely.

From the kitchen – Menu plans are in the works.

I am wearing – Black slacks and a cream blouse.

I am reading – On Basilisk Station

I am hoping –  That I get to pulling up the horrible, evil, once-upon-a-time was white, carpet up this week.  Didn’t get to it last week, but there is hope for this week.

I am creating –  Plans for the herb garden and Hannah’s first communion dress.

I am hearing –  The children playing — apparently they are taking a great adventure through a hot, dry desert, escorting a small group of children (baby dolls and stuffed animals)

Around the house –Why does it seem like all the light bulbs go out at once.  We changed four yesterday and I see another one.

One of my favorite things –  Seed catalogs.

A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week –  This is a week of plans.  I will continue work on the first communion dress (this is a huge adventure).

Here is a picture thought I am sharing with you – 

The first cut
The first cut


Catholic stuff · In Prayer · My world

Inauguration Day Mass Intentions — 50 States

The Power of the Mass is Christ Himself
The Power of the Mass is Christ Himself

 This just in from Barbara:

I just had to let everyone know, we did it! With God’s help, we have Masses secured for our new president in all 50 states, as well as nine other countries! Thanks to each you for helping in this grassroots effort for the benefit of our nation and the unborn. To date we have 285 Masses being offered on or near Inauguration Day for our new president that he will have a conversion of heart and work to protect the dignity of all human life.

Just a reminder that today (Thursday) is probably the last day you will be able to get a bulletin announcement in at your parish letting people know about the Mass for the President.

If you know of anyone who has secured a Mass and hasn’t let us know ASAP so I can get them on the roster.

Also, if you have been thinking about contacting a priest or a parish about having a Mass said, it isn’t too late. Just today, one of the our local gals called one of the parishes who had wanted to have a Mass but said they were booked. The parish secretary called the pastor and they were able to rearrange the intention schedule and get a Mass on the 20th. Someone else wrote to say that the 20th was the only date available next week, and they were able to secure it. And, if you can’t get the 20th, God does work outside of time, so it can be later on as well.

I will send out an email this weekend with our final tally. Will we surge beyond the 300 mark? We have been averaging between 15 and 25 Masses per day. Maybe we will hit 400! So much good comes from a single Mass offered for a specific intention, I can’t imagine the benefit of this multitude of Masses being offered for the most powerful person in the world. It will be exciting to watch how God works.

I pray that God will bless each of you for your dedication to the unborn and I hope that we will hear good news for their sakes in the coming weeks and months.

In Christ’s love and service,
Barb L-


285 Masses in 50 States, Washington DC; Rome, Italy; Fatima, Portugal; the Dominican Republic; Haiti; India; United Kingdom; Kenya; Africa; and Canada.

Alabama (AL)
Gulf Shores, AL: retired priest (private Mass)

Alaska (AK)
Anchorage, AK: Holy Family Cathedral 
Anchorage, AK: St. Elizabeth Ann Seton’s  (April 13) 

Arizona (AZ)
Coolidge, AZ: St. James’

Arkansas (AR)
Cherokee Village, AR: St. Michael’s Church  Fr. Demets, FSSP

California (CA)
El Cajon, CA: St. Ephrem’s
Hawaiian Gardens, CA: St. Peter Chanel Church, Fr. Fernando Cuenca, OMV
Napa, CA: St. Thomas Aquinas (9:00 AM)
Newport, CA: Our Lady of Mt. Carmel
Rancho Santa Margarita, CA: San Francisco Solano’s
San Bernadino, CA: Our Lady of the Assumption
Santa Paula, CA: TAC (St. Thomas Aquinas College), Fr. Rafftery
Tulare, CA: St Rita’s
Vina, CA: Abbey of New Clairvaux, Fr. Schwan, OCSO

Colorado (CO)
Denver, CO: Christ the King Seminary Chapel, Bishop Conley
Littleton, CO: Our Lady of Mt. Carmel
Littleton, CO: St. Frances Cabrini (Feb. 12)
Pueblo West, CO: St Pius X / St. Paul the Apostle by KC’s of Pueblo West

Connecticut (CT)
(2) West Hartford, CT: St. Thomas the Apostle’s (8 AM and Noon)

Delaware (DE)
Wilmington, DE: St. Hedwig’s (Fri. Jan. 16)

Florida (FL)
Deltona, FL: Our Lady of the Lakes

Jenson Beach, FL: St. Martin de Porres’, Fr. Molgano
Orlando, FL: University of Central Florida–Catholic Campus Ministry
St Petersburg, FL: St. Raphael’s
Sebastian, FL: St. Sebastian’s  (Jan. 23) 
FL: Fr. George Restrepo 

Georgia (GA)
Canton, GA: Our Lady of Lasalette’s 

Hawaii (HI)
Honolulu, HI: Father Damien’s on Aliamanu Military Reservation

Idaho (ID)
Boise, ID:  St. Mark’s
Post Falls, ID: Immaculate Conception 
Fathers of Mercy

Illinois (IL)
Alton, IL: St Mary’s of the Immaculate Conception (6:30 am Mass)
DeKalb, IL: Christ the Teacher Parish (12:05 PM), Northern Illinois University,

Joliet, IL: St. Joseph’s, Fr. Andres O. Carm
Streator, IL: St. Anthony’s .
Westmont, IL: Holy Trinity

Indiana (IN)
Montgomery, IN: St. Peter’s (Jan. 21)

Notre Dame, IN: Basilica of the Sacred Heart (Date TBA)
(2) Washington, IN: Our Lady of Hope (Jan. 18 @ 11 AM and Jan 20)

Iowa (IA)
Iowa City, IA: St. Mary’s

Sioux City, IA: Carmelite Monastery

Kansas (KS)
Atchison, KS: Benedictine College (Noon) Fr. Miller, OSB
Concordia, KS: Our Lady of Perpetual Help  (Jan. 22 @ 7:15 AM)
Dodge City, KS: Cathedral of Our Lady of Guadalupe 
Garden City, KS: St. Dominic’s
Topeka, KS: St. Joseph’s (Jan. 19 @ 6:30 AM-Special Intention) bers
Wichita, KS: Our Lady of Perpetual Help (Jan. 18-Special Intention)

Kentucky (KY)
(2) Auburn, KY: Fathers of Mercy, Fr. Ben Cameron and Fr. Tony Stephens
Hopkinsville, KY: Sts. Peter & Paul 
Morganfield, KY: St. Ann’s
Russellville, KY: Sacred Heart, Fr. Peter

Louisiana (LA)
(2) Baton Rouge, LA: St. Alphonsus of Liguori (Jan. 13 & 20)
Hackberry, LA: St. Peter the Apostle’s (Jan. 19 at 6:15 PM) Fr. Tolentino
New Orleans, LA: Old St. Patrick’s (Noon)

Maine (ME)
Lewiston, ME: Fr. Roux @ 9 AM
Sanford, ME: St. Therese of Lisieux Parish

Maryland (MD)
Rockville, MD: St. Mary’s (7 AM)

Massachusetts (MA)
Lowell, MA: Fairhaven Nursing Home, Fr . Casey
Dracut, MA: St. Marguerite D’Youville, Fr . Casey
Millis, MA: St. Thomas the Apostle 
Milford, MA: Sacred Heart of Jesus 

Michigan (MI)
Ann Arbor, MI: Sisters of Mary, Mother of the Eucharist
Dearborn, MI: Sacred Heart (Jan. 23 @ 9 AM)
Dearborn Heights, MI: St. Sebastian’s (Jan. 19 @ 6:30 PM)
Livonia, MI: St. Michael’s
Michigan City, MI: St. Stanislaus Kostka’a (7 AM), Father Walter Ciesla
St. Clair, MI: St. Mary’s 
Troy MI: Elizabeth Ann Seton’s
Troy, MI: St Anastasias’ (7 AM)  
Troy, MI: St Thomas Moore’s (9 AM)

Minnesota (MN)
Alexandria, MN: St. Mary’s
Bayport, MN: St. Charles’
Canby, MN: St. Peter’s 
Crookston, MN: Diocese of Crookston Chancery
Crookston, MN:  Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception

Crookston, MN: Villa St. Vincent 
Greenbush, MN: Blessed Sacrament 
Jordon, MN: St. Patrick’s (Fri. Jan. 16)
Rochester, MN: Pax Christi
St. Paul, MN: St. Agnes’ (Date TBA) 
South St. Paul, MN: Holy Trinity (Jan. 22)
(2) (Jan. 15 and 22) 

Mississippi (MS)
Greenwood, MS: St. Francis of Assisi’s 
Hernando, MS: Holy Spirit
Kiln, MS: by Annunciation Parish by the Annunciation Intercessors of the Lamb
Picayune, MS: St. Charles Borromeo by the Annunciation Intercessors of the Lamb
Southhaven, MS: Christ the King (Jan. 20, 21, & 26) 

Missouri (MO)
Chesterfield, MO: Ascension (Jan. 22 and 23)

Crestwood, MO: St. Elizabeth of Hungary 
Excelsior Springs, MO: St. Ann’s
Kansas City, MO: Cathedral of the Immaculate (Jan. 21-Special Intention) 
Kansas City, MO: Our Lady of Good Counsel, Msgr Blacet
Palmyra, MO: St. Joseph Parish, Rev. Christopher Smith
St Louis, MO: St. Justin Martyr

Montana (MT)
Belt, MT- St. Mark’s 
Columbus, MT – St. Mary’s 
Great Falls, MT – Our Lady of Lourdes

Great Falls, MT – Blessed Sacrament 
White Sulphur Springs, MT: St. Bartholomew’s

Nebraska (NE)
McCook, NE: St. Patrick Church (8:00 A.M. Elementary School Mass) 
Omaha, NE: St. Margaret Mary’s
Schuyler NE: Benedictine Mission House, Father Volker 

Nevada (NV)
Las Vegas, NV: Guardian Angel Cathedral (Feb. 10 @12:10)

New Hampshire (NH)
Jaffrey, NH: St. Patrick’s by Lorraine Coll
Merrimack, NH, Thomas More College of the Liberal Arts (Noon) requested by the student body.
Warner, NH: Magadalen  College, Fr. Tumwekwase

New Jersey (NJ)
Buena Borough, NJ: Queen of Angels Parish

Medford, NJ: St. Mary of the Lake
Washington, NJ: National Blue Army Shrine of the Immaculate Heart of Mary
New Mexico (NM)
Roy, Mosquero, and Wagon Mound, NM: Fr. Imbarrato

New York (NY)
Hartsdale, NY: Mill Hill 
NYC, NY: Church of Notre Dame (Jan. 19) Fr. Andrew Fornal
Niagara Falls, NY: St. Joseph’s 
Tarrytown, NY: The Church of the Transfiguration

North Carolina (NC)
Charlotte, NC: St. Ann, Fr. Reid
Fayetteville, NC: Fr. Ovsak
Gastonia, NC: St. Micheal’s, Fr. Arnsparger

North Dakota (ND)
Beach, ND: St. John’s, Fr. David Richter
Belfield/South Heart, ND: St. Mary’s/St. Bernards, Fr. Lucht
Bismarck, ND: Fr. Richter 
Bismarck, ND: Ascension
(3) Bismarck, ND: Cathedral of the Holy Spirit (both 6:45 and 8 AM), by Julie Ternes 
    and (8 AM on Jan. 22)

Bismarck, ND: Annunciation Monastery by Bonnie Volk
Bismarck, ND: Saint Anne’s, Fr. Wehner
Bismarck, ND: St. Vincent’s Care Center 
Bismarck, ND: Marillac Manor Retirement Place
(4) Bowman, ND: St. Charles’ (Jan. 20) 
  and several more (which will be offered close to 1/20)
Carrington, ND: Sacred Heart, Fr. Syverson
Dickinson, ND: Queen of Peace, Fr. Zwack
Dickinson, ND: St. Joseph’s, Fr. Streifel
Dickinson, ND: St. Patrick’s, Fr. Kreitinger 
Fargo, ND: Sts. Anne and Joachim (12:10 PM), Fr. Gunwall
Fargo, ND: Newman Center 
Fargo, ND: St. Mary’s Cathedral, Fr. Wilhelm
Flasher, ND: St. Lawrence’, Fr. Berg
Glenburn, ND: St. Philomena’s, Fr. Gardner
Grand Forks, ND: UND Newman Center, Fr. Courtright
(2) Grand Forks, ND: St. Mary’s
Hankinson, ND: St. Francis Convent, Fr. Bud Brooks
Hebron, ND: St. Ann’s 
Hettinger, ND: Holy Trinity, Fr. Joseph
Hillsboro, ND: St. Rose of Lima by Jeff and Rita Mootz
Jamestown, ND: St. James Basilica
Karlsruhe, ND: Sts. Peter & Paul, Fr. Gross
Lamoure, ND: Holy Rosary Church (8:30AM) Fr. Callery
Lidgerwood, ND: St. Boniface’s, Fr. Smith
Linton, ND: St. Anthony’s, Fr. Benz
Mandan, ND: Christ the King (8:00 AM), Fr. Waltz
Mandan, ND: (Jan. 19-private Mass) Fr. Joshua Waltz
Mantador, ND: Sts. Peter and Paul, Fr. Anderl
Minot, ND: (Jan. 19-private Mass) Fr. Justin Waltz
Minot, ND: Little Flower, Fr. Harvey
(2) Minot, ND: Our Lady of Grace , Fr. Krebs and another (Date TBA) by Joyce Krebs
Minot, ND: St. Leo’s, Fr. Vetter
Napoleon, ND: St. Philip Neri’s (Jan. 19), Fr.  Leiphon
New England, ND: St. Mary’s, Fr. Basil, OSB
New Rockford, ND: St. John’s, Fr. Pfau
Oakwood, ND: Sacred Heart, Fr. Lauerman
Park River, ND: St. Mary’s, Fr. Unger
Park River, ND: St. Mary’s (Date TBA) 
Parshall, ND: St. Bridgett’s, Fr. Synek
Rhame, ND: St. Mel’s (Jan. 18) 
(2) Richardton, ND: Assumption Abbey, Abbot Brian Wangler, OSB and Fr. Dietlein, OSB
Richardton, ND: Sacred Heart Monastery (Date TBA), Benedictine Sisters
Richardton, ND: St. Mary’s, Fr. Muggli, OSB
Rugby, ND: Little Flower’s, Fr. Graner
Valley City, ND: Maryvale-Sisters of the Presentation Convent, Fr. Seeberger
Valley City, ND: St. Catherine’s
Warsaw, ND: St. Gianna Maternity Home 
Williston, ND: St. Joseph’s, Fr. Schafer
Wilton, ND: St. Peter & Paul Ukrainian Church Fr. George
Ohio (OH)
Dayton, OH: listed as Special Intention
Cincinnati, OH: St. Jude’s in Bridgetown (6:30AM), Fr. Eric Bowman
Columbus, OH: Our Lady of Perpetual Help 

Oklahoma (OK)
Stillwater, OK: St. John the Evangelist

Oregon (OR)
Beaverton, OR: St. John Vianney Retirement Center, Fr. Jacobson
Grants Pass, OR St. Anne’s (Mon. Jan. 26 @ 7:45 AM)
Hillsboro, OR: St. Matthew’s 
Joseph, OR: St. Katherine’s
Junction City, OR: St. Helen’s, Fr. Zach
La Grande, OR: Our Lady of the Valley
Oregon City, OR: St Philip Benizi’s (Jan 23 @ 8 AM)

Portland, OR: (private Mass) Fr. Banfield
Portland, OR: Holy Rosary (Noon)
Sherwood, OR: St. Francis’
Tillamook, OR: Sacred Heart 

Pennsylvania (PA)
Fryburg, PA: St. Michael’s (Date TBA) 
Mars, PA: St. Kilian’s (Jan. 18)
Pittsburg, PA: Seraphic Mass Association

Rhode Island (RI)
North Kingstown, RI: St. Frances de Sales

South Carolina (SC)
Hartsville, SC: St. Mary’s, Fr. Karl
Rock Hill, SC: St. Anne’s
South Dakota (SD)
(2) Aberdeen, SD
Redfield, SN: Sacred Heart
Sioux Falls, SD: Holy Spirit Parish 
Tennessee (TN)
Antioch, TN: St. Ignatius of Antioch (Feb. 28 @ 5:30 PM) 
Nashville, TN: Dominican Sisters of St. Cecilia’s

Texas (TX)
Corpus Cristi, TX: Fr. Medley, SOLT
El Paso, TX:
Frisco, TX: St. Francis of Assisi (April 16-Special Intention)
Houston, TX: St Bernadette’s 
Houston, TX: St Clare’s

(2) Houston, TX: St Paul’s (2 on 1/20)
Houston, TX: Holy Rosary 
Houston, TX: Holy Family
Houston, TX: St. Francis of Assisi (2 masses) 
(2) Houston, TX: 2 more parishes
Houston, TX: Fr Sunny Joseph
Rio Grande City: The Benedictine Monastery of the Good Shepherd

Utah (UT)
Salt Lake City, UT: The Carmel of the Immaculate Heart of Mary

Vermont (VT)
Westfield, VT: Immaculate Heart of Mary, Benedictine Monastery

Virginia (VA)
(2) TBA by Lama
Great Falls, VA: St. Catherine of Siena’s, Fr. Drummond
Norton, VA: St. Anthony’s, Fr. Drake
Virginia Beach, VA: St Luke’s (7:00 AM)

Washington (WA)
Bremerton, WA: Our Lady, Star of the Sea, Fr. Lappe
Camas, WA: St. Thomas Aquinas’
Federal Way, WA: Pasisades Retreat House, Fr. Horan 
Renton, WA: St. Anthony’s (Sunday, Jan. 25, Time TBA) 
Renton, WA: St. Stephen the Martyr (Private Mass), Fr. White 
Renton, WA: St. Stephen the Martyr (TBA), Fr. White
(2) Seattle, WA: Sacred Heart, Fr. Konen 
Vancouver, WA: Holy Redeemer 
Vancouver, WA: St. James’ 

West Virginia (WV)
St. Albans, WV: St. Francis
Wheeling, WV: Cathedral of St. Joseph (Noon) by the Diocese of Sheelig-Charleston

Wisconsin (WI)
Altoona, WI: Augustine-St. Mary’s (8 AM)
Appleton, WI: St. Pius X’s (1/8/09) 
Eau Claire, WI: Regis High School Chapel (7:25 AM) 
Green Bay, WI: St. Joseph Oratory, Extraordinary Rite (8:45 AM) 
Hilbert, WI: St. Mary’s 
Kaukauna, WI: Holy Cross (Jan. 21 @ 7 AM) Church 
Mt. Horeb, WI: St. Ignatius’ (5:30 PM), Fr. Richard Heilman
Pewaukee, WI: Queen of Apostles’ (5 PM)

St. John, WI: St. John’s 
Sherwood, WI: Sacred Heart
Seymour, WI: St. John the Baptist’s, Fr. Kabat

Wyoming (WY)
Cody, WY: St. Anthony of Padua 
Evanston, WY: St. Mary Magdalen’s
Kemmerer, WY: St. Patrick’s
Thermopolis, WY: St. Francis’, Father Blotsky, OSB

Washington D.C.
Basilica of the Immaculate Conception (Date TBA)
(Private Mass) Fr. Jim Steffes, STL, Secretariat of Clergy, Consecrated Life and Vocations @ USCCB

Outside the USA
Dominican Republic
Calgary, AB, Canada; St. James’ (7 PM)
Haiti; Missionaries of Charity, Fr. Wayne Sattler
Bangalore, India (3) Holy Ghost Church, Redemptorist Father’s chapel, Catholic Center Church
Bangalore, India: Frs. Vailatt and Edayodil, 
Bangalore, India: Fr Arulanandam Selsus 
Colaba, Mumbai, India: St Joseph’s Catholic Church
Rome, Italy: North American College 
Rome, Italy: 
Fatima, Portugal: Parish Church of the Seers of Fatima (7 PM)
Franciscan Mission Associates (5) (TBA) 
United Kingdom by Fr. Barry Ku
Meru, Kenya 
10 Masses (Jan. 29)

1 Mass
Djibouti, Africa: Camp Lemonier,US military base 



Bye, bye Wooden Moose-toy

Dangerous Criminal
Dangerous Criminal

Several years ago my brother-in-law in Alaska treated our son to a terrific toy moose.  It was jig-saw cut and rubbed with food-grade oil and very well loved by my little boy.  Sadly, unless our lawmakers manage the Herculean task of undoing their own mindlessly stupid legislation these types of handcrafted toys are a thing of the past.  Along with the little girl’s aprons, hair bows, taggy-blankets, toy wooden swords and other delights I have found at holiday bazaars and the home-made soakers, children’s clothing, thrif shops… oh the list goes on forever.

The very ironically named Consumer Product Safety Improvement Act of 2008 requires any item made for the use of children under 12 to be certified lead-free from an approved third party testing laboratory.   The cost of this, and the fear of the $100,000 fine for failure to comply is already forcing many crafters to close their doors.

Think I am nuts? Well, if you haven’t seen this covered on your local news you can see it here: Uncle Sam vs. your favorite toys 

If you have heard of this you may have also heard that resellers will not be compelled to test their inventory but can use their “judgment” to decide if the item is lead free.  Great, only if they are wrong they will be fined.  From the CSM article: “In its attempt to address the outcry from small businesses that sell children’s products, the Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) has clarified that resale stores can use judgment in distinguishing between products that are high risk versus low risk for lead without certification. However, if resellers “judge” wrong, they are still subject to federal, civil, and criminal penalties. ”   Note this only applies to resellers; manufacturers are still on the hook  — even if that manufacturer is a mom selling booties for babies or  hand made mantillas for little girls.

The CPSC has also proposed that “natural” materials such as wool, cotton, gems, silk and wood will be exempt.  As long as they are not painted, stained or dyed.   Even if the material is certified with the GTOS it still has to be tested for lead if it is dyed.  

Hazardous Material
Hazardous Material

A few links for more information:

The official CPSIA government site.
CPSIA Central, where you can see what small and micro business owners are doing to stop this.
The Toy Industry Association’s site.
Etsy has a forum set up.
and there is a nice series of articles at Over Lawyered (no offense to my favorite Yak)

Please, if you like handcrafted items contact your congressional representative  and senators.

Catholic homemaking · Simplicity

A penny saved

WWII Poster encouraging thrift - The National Archives
WWII Poster encouraging thrift - The National Archives

“Use it up, wear it out, make it do or do without”.  A well worn little axiom if there ever was one.   January is always a great  month to start working on new ideas, new plans, new goals.  With the current economic situation many of us are talking about ways to be thrifty, live more simply, basically spend and use less.

Right before Christmas Portland was blanketed in snow and ice.  After the holiday had pass and the snow was all but gone I took my oldest to get her hair cut and happened to overhear another customer talking about what a great Christmas she had had.  She hadn’t been able to get out and shop for all her last minute gifts, but she had a wonderful Christmas anyway.  She had made a couple gifts and just hadn’t given as many gifts as usual.  I thought it was really cool that she felt that way instead of feeling as though she had missed something.

Yesterday I found a really nice post about economy at  The Simple Wife.   I like her takes on the concept of economy and I agree whole heartily that we live in a culture with too much waste and trash.  We view everything as disposable — even people.

One of the themes in Tolkien’s work which has stuck with me is the thought of  things made to last.  He covers almost in passing, but as an enduring theme in his books,  the connections between craftsmanship, beauty and thrift.  All things functional also have form and where possible the form should be lovely and well crafted.  All things worth of creating are worth creating well and nothing should be wasted, tossed aside or abandoned.  Which is in a sense the essence of simple living, have less, do more with it and select those things we add to our life with care and care for what we have.  Only when something is ruined and twisted or wasted beyond repair is it destroyed.

Simple Woman's Daybook

The Simple Woman’s Daybook – January 12, 2009

The Simple Woman’s Daybook
is hosted by
Peggy at the Simple Woman.
Thank you Peggy.

FOR TODAY : January 12, 2008
Today is Christopher’s  10th birthday.  He has grown from a rolly-polly baby to a lean, tall and handsom young man.  

Outside my Window – The weather has shifted to a grey rain soaked mess.  This week it is supposed to warm up a little and dry everything off.  The fruit apple tree is looking a littl mossy, the roses need to be pruned.  Sort of bleak.   

I am thinking –   Despite the sogginess outside this might be a pretty good week.  I have a good idea what I want to get done, it is just a matter of getting to it. 

From the learning rooms – This week is my first of four rethinking and retooling weeks. 

I am thankful for-  Email.  It is such a nice way to keep in touch with friends.

From the kitchen – A new crockpot.

I am wearing – Brown slacks and a white top.

I am reading – On Basilisk Station

I am hoping –  That I get to pulling up the horrible, evil, once-upon-a-time was white, carpet up this week.

I am creating –  Some new lesson plans

I am hearing –  The children playing.

Around the house –Why does it seem like all the light bulbs go out at once.  We changed four yesterday and I see another one.

One of my favorite things – My full spectrum light.

A Few Plans For The Rest Of The Week –  Getting back full into the homeschool day routine.  Finishing up my new planner.

Here is a picture thought I am sharing with you – 

My ten year old guy
My ten year old guy


Blogs I Know · My world

Seven thoughts

Jen at Conversion Diary has been doing this and every week I have been tempted and then got side tracked or something.  There is a first time for everything.


I think I would very much enjoy Valkyrie, but why oh why does Tom Cruise have to be in it?


Children go to sleep really easily when you wake them up a little earlier and run them hard and happy all day.


Yes, I was very cranky about my ex-sister-in-law and the picture thing a couple weeks ago.  After my ex forwarded her email to me I went ahead and sent her the picture.  I am sort of weird that way I guess.


I love getting emails from people I haven’t heard from in a long while.  Today I got one that made me laugh, so many half forgotten things shared silliness about tea-cozies and my strange way of being a little to starch-collared for my own good.


Blizzard adding the achievement system in World of Warcraft has been a really bad time sink for me.

I enjoy having friends hang out at my house with me, but the thought of company visiting send me into near panic attacks. 


I find it really interesting that I see things in pictures that I don’t see in real life.  If I am looking at a picture of my house I will see everything that is out of place, but if I am just walking through I don’t see it.  Same goes with the children.  If I take a picture I will see the messed hair, holes in clothing, smudgy faces, but in real life I just don’t catch all that.


As God made me


 Rachel flashes us a grin
Rachel flashes us a grin

God made us each as an expression of His perfect and wonderful love.  How do we reconcile that to the fact that all of us are born faulted.  Particularly, how do we reconcile that to idea that some people face incredible challenges because of birth defects, disability or genetic disease?  This has been highlighted today while I was reading about Autism Speaks video Autism Every Day and some of the reactions to the video.

I will probably write about the film when I have more time.   A good amount of the controversy surrounding the film had to do with its creators who “We are dedicated to funding global biomedical research into the causes, prevention, treatments, and cure for autism; to raising public awareness about autism and its effects on individuals, families, and society; and to bringing hope to all who deal with the hardships of this disorder. We are committed to raising the funds necessary to support these goals.”  A good number of people, myself included, worry about the “biomedical research into causes and prevention” bit.  If by prevention you mean prevention in the Down’s Syndrom sense of prevention  — no thanks.   Aborting children for the sole reason that they might be born autistic is not morally acceptable.  Rachel is as much deserving and entitled to her life as any person and has been since the moment she came to be. 

But, does that mean that I wouldn’t provide her with just about any opportunity to lead a more normal life?  Don’t I want there to be a cure for her? Or is Rachel’s autism something about her that altering it would mean making her someone else? 

Even setting aside the reality that at fifteen, even if you could somehow totally remove autism and have Rachel be completly normal today she would still have a devil of a time catching up with the years of schooling and language that she would have to deal with learning. (note that she can not read) But let’s just say we could magically catch Rachel up with this miracle cure too.  Would we want to do it?   Would we want to do it knowing that in way autism defines some of what and who Rachel is?  I think we can only answer yes to this.

And there comes the trick.  We love Rachel as she is, but we can also see the dreadful issues that autism causes for her.   While she is mostly happy with her life there are undeniable struggles for her because of her disability.  One of the things I find most offensively obnoxious when reading on autism forums and boards is those who are diversity/disability activist in the sense that they focus not on the disability of autism as being a profound issue limiting their social interactions, chance to form meaningful relationships or even care for themselves as adults, but on the diversity that autism is.  They view autism as something which sets them apart, but also a critical aspect of who they are.   Which is true.  But when you are reading and posting on a forum and berating parents like myself who are here hoping to find something which will allow their children to do things like learn to read and write and communicate their feelings then something seems off.   We aren’t trying to “fix” individuals on the autism spectrum who are functioning in life — supported or independently, we want our children to have that same chance.   That is, I suppose, what offends me.  The idea that I don’t love my child as she is if I want her to have the opportunity to function on a reasonably independent level, in short, if I didn’t wish that she wasn’t autistic, or at least not as severely autistic.

God created Rachel as she is and that is autistic.   There is something about that that is His plan.  Vainly I can look at myself and say, Yes, being Rachel’s mother has changed my outlook considerably.   Or I could look at my children and see that they are more compassionate and tolerant people than I could have hoped they would be otherwise.   But I can also see Rachel in her struggles and her happiness which are different from her typical peers in many ways, but still similar.   But I can not, as her mother, wish that she wasn’t so profoundly affected by autism.  Some of this is selfishness on my part, but great deal of it is completely focused on Rachel.    It is even more true as she enters into adulthood and I am faced with the inevitable concerns that she can not adequately communicate her wants and needs in a way that others can help her achieve them.   Is it wrong to wish that Rachel could be other than how she was born? To wish that she wasn’t autistic.

I have to think not.   I think there is often a confusion about between the soul and the mind.  We judge too much on a persons mental capacity and most specifically on their ability to communicate,  even sadly with regards to spiritual things.  I was far more guilty of this before I had Rachel than I am now, but I still find myself occasionally slipping into this mindset.  But that begs the question, “Is someone’s worth based on their intelligence?”  We have to say no to this.   There is more to the person than the way their brain functions.  A tragic accident or disease which damaged someone’s mind doesn’t make them a different soul, it would only alter the function of that particular organ.   Which is why I don’t think Rachel would elementally be a different person if the autism-cure-fairy showed up and made her “normal”.  What I love about Rachel is no more her autism than my love for any of my children is based on their strengths or weaknesses.  I love her for who she is with autism or without.  For her own ease of life I wish she didn’t have to deal with autism but we all deal with what we are given both our blessing and our challenges.



This week I have been thinking a lot on the importance of community.  

Last night one of our neighbors knocked on the door just as we were putting the finishing touches on dinner.  Their tarp-tent-temporary garage thing had been pushed around by the strong winds and they needed some help moving it back and setting right.  So Kyle put on his shoes and went out to help them.   We count ourselves lucky to live on a little street with really kind neighbors.

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Inauguration Day Mass Intentions Update

no cause is lost until we surrender

This is from Barbara who is corridinating this great effort:

January 6, 2009

Greetings on the Feast of Blessed Andre Bessette. May his example of doing little things for the greater glory of God be our inspiration for our Mass Intention efforts this day.

We currently have 109 Masses being offered in 31 States and Washington, DC. We also have six more Masses secured in Italy, the Dominican Republic, Haiti, India, Portugal and Canada.

It has been exciting to see the Mass list grow and encouraging to read the enthusiastic responses from people throughout the country. Some people have evan been able to secure Masses in several parishes in their cities.

Next week, we will send out an e-mail inviting Catholics around the country to attend a Mass in their local area. So, it would be great to secure more Masses in all states so that more people would have the opportunity to attend a Mass locally.

Time is of the essence. It is getting more difficult to secure Mass Intentions for the specific date: 1/20/09. But there are still options. You can either ask for the closest date available or if you know your pastor to be zealously pro-life, you can talk to him directly and he may be willing to change the intention schedule, if at all possible.

Also, consider that the following places are not booked as early: convents, abbeys, monasteries, retirement homes for priests and nuns, hospitals, nursing homes, and college campuses. (The main campus churches are probably already booked, but the dorm Mass intentions are generally more available and flexible.). But even parishes are still making room for our intention in their schedules, so don’t hesitate to ask. Again, I have had good success sending out e-mails to specific priests that I know to be ardently pro-life. I also have had wonderful responses from convents this past week.

We are still missing the following states, so if you have contacts in these states, please let them know about this project:

Alaska (AK)
Colorado (CO)
Connecticut (CT)
Delaware (DE)
Idaho (ID)
Louisiana (LA)
Maine (ME)
Massachusetts (MA)
Mississippi (MS)
Missouri (MO)
Nevada (NV)
New Hampshire (NH)
New Jersey (NJ)  
New York (NY)
North Carolina (NC)
Oklahoma (OK)
Tennessee (TN)
Virginia (VA)
West Virginia (WV)

May God bless our efforts, may He hear and answer our prayers according to His Divine Will, and may we hear good news in the coming year for the sake of the unborn and most vulnerable among us.

My world


Wooded River Landscape - Henri Biva
Wooded River Landscape - Henri Biva

When I was in high school we live on the Mazzarn River near Hot Springs, Arkansas. I was a painfully awkward teen who looked forward to each summer escaping from school to spend my days in the river swimming. Each spring I would wait for the weather to change, the days to lengthen, and the water to warm. The dogwood tree would drop its pink blossoms into the river making perfect circular ripples. The ripples would bump into each other cause small distortions they would flow downstream and vanish.

Sometimes, writing online feels like dropping a small petal into a huge river. I know that this small little blog doesn’t reach a huge audience or make a big difference in anyone’s world. But every once in a while I hear from someone else out there and it makes it all worth while.