September 24, 2015 § Leave a comment
This has been resting on my heart for a long time. My own daughters know this and the young women closest to me. But it also belongs to all the young women I know: family, friend’s daughters, the clerk at my favorite craft store, the neighbor’s granddaughter. If you ever find yourself pregnant and are afraid or are considering ending your pregnancy this is my promise:
My promise you.
For every young woman in my life, this is my promise.
If you are ever pregnant and worried, alone or frightened.
I will care for you and for your child: today, tomorrow and forever.
You do not need to be alone.
If you need safe housing, food, transportation or clothing I will help you.
If you need help finding medical care or getting to appointments I will help you.
If you need legal assistance I will help you find it.
If you need to cry I will hold you, if you are scared I will comfort you, if you are overwhelmed I will remind you how strong, capable and brave you can be.
If you need someone to be there when you have your baby I will be there and hold your hand, comfort you or do anything you need.
If you need someone to care for your child for a month, or a year or a life time I will – no questions or judgement.
If you would rather have someone else care for your child I will help you find that person.
I will do anything and everything I can to help you and your baby. If I can not help in any specific way I will do all I can to help you find the help I can not provide.
I will be there for you and for your child because you are both important, because life is beautiful and precious and you are both worthy of love and support.
June 1, 2015 § Leave a comment
Saint Justin Martyr
Born 100 AD – Died 165 AD
Apologist an Martyr.
Feast Day: June 1
May 22, 2015 § Leave a comment
A few of my friends have been posting something or another about the latest “Duggar News” what especially caught my eye was Simcha Fisher’s Would your kids know what to do if someone molested them?
It is a good question, though I think the answer for all children really is “no, they wouldn’t” and I could expound upon that a little but it is just the nature of children to not know. In reality the best you can hope for is that the relationship you have with your child is such that whenever anything disturbs their peace they can come to you. I completely share Simcha’s absolute lack of any interest in even the smallest news about the Duggar Family, but I will say that my take away from the little Facebook has forced on me is this: Josh Duggar went to his parents when he was 15 years old and told his parents he had done something horrible and they took him to the authorities. His parents convinced him to turn himself in. Which brings me to the question, “what would you do if your child came to you and said, ‘I molested someone’?”
I suppose the only lawful and moral answer to that question would have to be to convince them to turn themselves in and failing that to turn them in yourself. But I can’t even imagine the pain that would cause. When on occasion my children have come to me to confess something “horrible” they have done I have always been able to sooth them, advise them on how to right the destructive road they have started down. But something so horrific? Where do you even start with that? My soul shrinks at even the smallest thought of my child doing anything like this. I know my heart would want to hide them, protect them, keep them safe. Fifteen is still so young. It would be so easy to make any excuse not to contact the authorities.
Prayer could be the only place to start would be prayer. When David heard that his son Amnon had raped his sister he did nothing as we read in 2 Samuel “King David, when he heard of the whole affair, became very angry. He would not, however, antagonize Amnon, his high-spirited son; he loved him, because he was his firstborn.” I feel nothing but compassion for the Duggars and any parent who has to deal with such a devastating turn of events and I would pray that Our Lady of Sorrows comfort them and sustain them to do the right thing.
May 21, 2015 § Leave a comment
This post is the third post of of our homeschool planning series you can read the first here.
One of focus points of our parent and child interview is the child’s vision for where God wants them to be, what they envision for their future and what they are interested in learning more about. I prayerfully think about my goals for the children and where I think they need more focus.
Our goals serve three purposes: To improve where we are weak, to enhance where we are strong, to explore something new.
We also want to be living balanced lives so we make sure that we have goals in all the following areas: Spiritual and Vocational, Academic, Esthetic and Cultural, Life Skills and Career, Physical and Health, Character and Virtue, and Relationships and Family.
Homeschooling is more than just teaching your children reading and writing and history. While all those academic things are good and important it is critical to be working on developing a balanced person. With that in mind each of the children have a Guiding Statement. This would be a mission statement in the corporate world, but craft a statement to guide us. This statement focuses on the being of our better selves. We also pick a motto for the year, a short little statement that is to improve where we are weak.
Each goal should be focused and well defined, achievable given the resources of the family, each goal should be measurable and each goal should be completely within the control (as much as anything can be) of the family. While it is worthy to aspire to “grow closer to God” that doesn’t really make a good goal as there isn’t a good measure for it. It would be better to say “I will make a pilgrimage to the Vatican”, but if that isn’t within the means of the family it will only lead to frustration. Your child could set the goal of attending daily mass, but if they can’t get there on their own and mom or dad can’t take them they will not be successful. But they could set the goal of saying a decade of the Rosary every night – it is focused and defined, achievable, measurable and within their control.
I have a worksheet for tracking the Guiding Statement, Motto and Goals shared on Google Drive.
May 21, 2015 § Leave a comment
“I die innocent, and ask God that my blood may serve to unite my Mexican brethren.”
Born – July 30, 1869 Martyred – May 25, 1927
Memorial May 21st
May 20, 2015 § Leave a comment
St. Bernardino of Siena O.F.M.
Born September 8, 1380 Died May 20, 1444
Fest Day May 20.
April 28, 2015 § Leave a comment
The first stage of planning for next year is taking an honest assessment of where we are and what is working and what could work better. This is one of those times where having a big family means a lot more work. This is a bit of a time consuming process. You really can’t skip this step even if you are moving from a school environment to homeschool. You just really need to know where you are in order to get to where you want to be.
The first things we are going to decide is if homeshooling is the best option for this child for the upcoming year or should we investigate other options, is the program and/or methodology we have been using working for us as a family and for this child in particular and which subjects are we continuing and which are we not. Once we say “yes, we are homeschooling next year.” I list out the subjects that each child has been working on this year and their extra curricular activities. For example Joshua has been working on Handwriting, Math, Spelling, Reading, History, Science, Grammar and Writing. We do CCD at our parish and Boy Scouts.
These go into my Yearly Assessment Worksheet. Then working across I ask the child their thoughts on the subject, I put down my assessment and if this is a subject that we will continue next year and if so will we use the same text series and what level we will need.
This is also a great time to do a parent interview. We do this from time to time through the year but the end of the year is the “big one”. I sit down with each child and we go through a bunch of questions. The kids know they are free to say anything. This is a time where they can say anything at all and there will be no repercussions of any kind. It is very valuable to be able to see what they are feeling and thinking.
These are the questions we are using. If they don’t have an answer I let them think about it overnight and ask them again. I ask the questions and let them answer and then I hand the questions to them if they want/need to have some thinking time. It is ok to not have an answer. Once I get the information I have a conference with each child and we talk about things they could do to make the family better. I never share the specifics of what any child says to another, but we do talk about any themes that are revealed.